It’s Not You, It’s Them

It may sound silly, but despite my track record, I still believe in true love.

My opinions and expectations of it have changed a bit over the years, however.

I no longer need it to complete me, but rather look forward to the additional happiness it will bring to my life.

Maybe it is the wisdom that comes with age or the pure act of loving myself, but either way, I have learned that building something up in my own mind does not make it real.

People say things they don’t mean all the time and it is up to us to decide whether to take it to heart.

I’ve talked to a lot of my guys friends about the subject and the consensus has been that in most cases, we make the situation much more complicated in our minds than it really needs to be.

The truth is that if someone really loves you and wants to be with you, there will be no stopping them.

So all this time we spend waiting by the phone hoping he will call is pointless.

If he felt the same as you, there would be no waiting by the phone. There would be no question in your mind as to whether he is thinking about you or not. If he was, he would tell you.

Rather than putting your life on hold and hoping for something that is obviously not mutual, you need to pick yourself up and move on.

If they really want you, men will fight for you and most of them enjoy the act of the chase.

Don’t lose faith in yourself or think it is something you did or didn’t do and it is not because you are not worthy of them either. The simple truth is that loving someone does not require them to love you in return.

If you were true, spoke your mind and they just weren’t feeling it, that’s all it is, they were just not feeling it.

The reality is that not everyone we love is who we are supposed to end up with. I’m sure there are plenty of people who want to be with you, but you just don’t feel the same way. It is not always the result of something they did or didn’t do, right?

So why would we think that about ourselves when we are sitting on the other side of the table?

The person you are meant to be with is out there somewhere, but you will never find them if you are too busy waiting on the wrong person’s feelings to change.

I know it hurts, (trust me I really do) but the rejection of others can actually be a blessing depending on how you look at it.

Call me a hopeless romantic, but I really believe that what is meant to be will always find a way. True love should not be complicated and will not be perfect, but it should come easy.

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